Say NO Nicely

Say NO Nicely


Say NO Nicely


My favorite ways to say NO nicely fall into the THREE categories below. Choose the phrases, or a combination of phrases, that work best for you!   Above all else, avoid making excuses!


 1. Compliment + NO

“I appreciate your thinking of me, however I’m going to opt out.”

“I’m flattered that you’d ask me out, but I’m going to pass.”

“Thank you.  My plate is full right now.”


2. Empathy + NO

“I wish I could assist you, however I’m not able to.”

“I’m not able to attend, but would love to help in another way.”

“You’ve worked hard on this committee; however I won’t be able to join.” 


3. “Choose” to say No

“I’m going to pass on that offer.”

“That doesn’t work for me.”

“I’m not feelin’ it.”

By the way, category #3 also works well when someone replies with WHY!???  You say:  “That just doesn’t work for me.”  or “I’m just not feelin’ it.”

Remember…no excuse making!

However, if you must say YES—especially with bosses and clients—do it without guilt.  Set parameters that work for you!



For example:

“Boss, I’d be happy to do this for you.  Which of the projects I’m working on is top priority?
 “Would you be willing to wait until Monday morning if we hand deliver your order?”



“I’d be happy to get that info to you, if it can wait until later today.”