“I appreciate you!” has become a common, perhaps overused, phrase. The real test is whether the person’s actions support that proclamation because appreciation is an action word. Here are three actions you can take to make sure your expressions of appreciation are well received, especially at work. Customize When I was a supervisor in university administration some years ago, I…
Work with whiners? When a co-worker approaches us and launches into the latest lament, here are five ways to respond. Use the strategies below that feel most comfortable for you. Set Boundaries: “I can give you my full attention for about 15 minutes, then I really need to get back to work.” Find out what they need: “Before you continue,…
A Three-Step Process for Constructively Conveying Concerns Difficult conversations are inevitable. We’ve all had those moments when we must voice concerns, address an issue, or share negative feedback. To make difficult conversations less difficult, try my three-step process for constructively conveying concerns: A.I.R. – A- Awareness, I- Impact, R- Request AWARENESS – Give the other person the benefit of the…
Difficult conversations don’t have to ruin the relationship. Find out four ways to address the issues while keeping the relationship intact. We’ve all been there. A co-worker misses a deadline. A team member’s tone comes across as dismissive. A client makes a request that’s just not realistic. In that moment, you have a choice: avoid the issue and hope it…
Rephrase for better communication results. Making a few small adjustments in how we phrase things can increase our chances of getting cooperation and connection. Years ago, I arrived on-site to deliver a keynote for a corporate event. Surprisingly, it was my second year in a row speaking to this group. Typically, organizations bring in a different speaker each year, so…
“Speak in anger and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.” This popular quote is a cautionary tale of what could happen if we let our emotions get the best of us. Yet, it’s understandable to have an emotional reaction when you receive criticism. You may feel defensive. You may want to explain yourself and defend your actions. So…