“You’re not the boss of me!” Growing up as the oldest of four children, I was frequently reminded of that by my two younger sisters and my brother. If you are the oldest in your family, you can relate to that plight. I had to change my bossy-big-sister ways and replace “You better” with “I would prefer” and “You never”…
“If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” We’ve all heard that popular phrase. In fact, growing up I not only heard the phrase, I felt haunted by it. On so many occasions, I might have had something to say, yet if it were a concern or something less than positive, I would choose not to say…
LOL TMI OMG! I Can’t Understand What You’re Saying to Me “I can’t understand what you’re saying to me!” That’s the reaction we may get when we overuse text talk, acronyms or corporate jargon. It’s nice to have a simple shorthand, at work and beyond. However, it’s also important not too use it too much in order to avoid online…
“I appreciate you!” has become a common, perhaps overused, phrase. The real test is whether the person’s actions support that proclamation because appreciation is an action word. Here are three actions you can take to make sure your expressions of appreciation are well received, especially at work. Customize When I was a supervisor in university administration some years ago, I…
Work with whiners? When a co-worker approaches us and launches into the latest lament, here are five ways to respond. Use the strategies below that feel most comfortable for you. Set Boundaries: “I can give you my full attention for about 15 minutes, then I really need to get back to work.” Find out what they need: “Before you continue,…
A Three-Step Process for Constructively Conveying Concerns Difficult conversations are inevitable. We’ve all had those moments when we must voice concerns, address an issue, or share negative feedback. To make difficult conversations less difficult, try my three-step process for constructively conveying concerns: A.I.R. – A- Awareness, I- Impact, R- Request AWARENESS – Give the other person the benefit of the…